Change The Way You Look At Things

Dr. Wayne Dyer has been a huge influence in my life. Over the years, my thinking has been molded ever so gently by many interesting philosophies he shared through his writing and through his talks.

Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change is a simple enough statement, yet so very profound. For me, it has been the metaphoric key that managed to open many doors.

It’s not too difficult to see the value of how changing the way you look at things can provide that shift in perspective that may seem minor, but is capable of making a huge difference.

Dr. Wayne Dyer I believe, was advocating people to look within themselves to find solutions, rather outside themselves. This makes perfect sense, especially now that I understand the mechanics of how Law of Attraction operates.

We tend to ‘react’ to circumstances because that seems to be the most natural thing to do. If people are callous or unkind, our gut reaction is to feel hurt or angry. We often buy into the misconception that people/circumstances need to change before we can be happy.

But what I’ve come to learn is that we do have a choice in every moment, to move in the direction of how we’d prefer to feel. I’ll admit it’s not always easy though. Yet ‘changing the way you look at things’ does make a big difference.

To me, that single decision to look at things in a different way is like a pivot, capable of creating a totally different reality. And that is because we can utilize the leverage that Law of Attraction provides.

Rather than feel slighted by someone’s actions, simply understanding that they may be having a bad day (which has nothing to do with you) can soften your gut reaction to the behaviour they are exhibiting at the moment.

Now that you no longer feel like a target, you can be who you really are at the core of your being – more centred and nonreactive. It is somehow easier to be more compassionate and less judgemental. There is a certain unnecessary resistance that crops up when you question ‘why’ someone may have treated you the way they did.

Law of Attraction which is always operating in the background continues to gather thoughts that are on a similar vibrational frequency.

Very soon a new momentum begins from the more neutral starting point of compassion. More general, kindly thoughts begin to find their way in – and not long after, the very thing that had seemed so awful before, tends to look a whole lot better. Bingo! The thing you looked at initially did change because of the way you looked at it!

The very same condition that had initially seemed like a roadblock, now becomes just a temporary setback that can be overcome, because the door to possibility has just been opened and many solutions can now find their way in.

I believe that life is fluid and dynamic and any condition can be molded into something more satisfying at any point.

In my own experience, a few years ago I found myself face to face with a serious medical diagnosis and later a paralyzed arm. Thanks to what I’d learnt from Dr. Wayne Dyer and others like him, I found it easy enough to pivot away from a situation that had the potential to be bleak and overwhelming, to one that is more life-giving.

Rather than allowing my physical condition to become a roadblock that might prevent me from enjoying life, I chose to see this experience as an opportunity to find ways to work around my disability. I get a special thrill of attempting to do things I feel inspired to do, even though they might seem totally unnecessary to any onlooker. Maybe no one will understand why I ever bothered sewing a dress for myself with one working arm, when it would’ve been more ‘normal’ to ask someone else to do it for me. The dress turned out perfectly wearable and I was thrilled that my effort paid off so well.

I reckon that pushing the boundaries of my creativity gets my juices flowing … and the satisfaction of accomplishing something new, is what smooths my path and makes my journey more joyous.

And each time, my door opens just that much wider.

© 2018 G.A.I.L

Finding Resonance

I have no quarrel with people who think blogging about philosophy is a waste of time. After all, why waste time ‘thinking’ when you could just as easily live life and enjoy every moment for what it’s worth?

I agree completely.

But what about people like me who actually thrive on figuring out the pieces to the puzzle? Philosophy like everything else need not be everybody’s cup of tea. But it certainly is mine 😉

I guess I’ve always had an insatiable curiosity to know how life works. I honestly get a thrill every time I resonate with a thought or an idea someone else may have figured out before I did.

Dr. Wayne Dyer is one person whose philosophy has always struck a chord with me. He has shaped my thinking over the years with his various books and really expanded my understanding. One of his favorite quotes was “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”. What an interesting concept, that has the potential to yield such amazing results!

Perhaps each philosophy I resonate with is something I may have subconsciously suspected, which suddenly makes total sense when I came across it and makes me feel connected in a way I cannot explain.

Sometimes I’m faced with a question to which I have no immediate answer. For instance, the other day a good friend asked me what might be the end result I hoped to achieve by starting this blog. Besides my hope of finding resonance with other people who are reaching for the same understanding as I am, I could think of nothing.

And while this question was still brewing in my mind I came upon a quote by Maya Angelou (literally within a few hours) which left me quite startled.

Her words were, “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” This was a perfectly accurate description of how I see myself, yet her words said it far more succinctly than I could at the time. My blog is simply a reflection of that feeling.

I’m a great example of someone who’s not perfect, but who thinks that life is! We get to enjoy the perfection of this universe any way we choose.

Far from feeling cheated about my illness, I found that my innate desire to know about life sent me on a journey of self-discovery. My illness was simply the catalyst that propelled me forward.

I stumbled upon something I never even knew existed until then—i.e. Law of Attraction, which I’m discovering is very real and very consistent. I also realized that I was never going to be content with just surviving, but actually thriving!

I thought it was a remarkable coincidence to come upon Maya Angelou’s quote at that time.
Coincidences as we see them are incidents that come together, in a seemingly random fashion. But are they really all that random?

I truly believe in the theory that every thought that has ever been thought still exists in a cyberspace of sorts. Law of Attraction simply organizes the rendezvous with these thoughts when our asking is strong and we have no resistance to receiving the answer.

My unspoken question (to the Universe) about my purpose in blogging attracted to me an answer that filled in the blank for me.

I do not consciously intend filling in anyone’s blanks for them. I’d rather just put my thoughts out there for anyone to use when the moment is right. And I don’t have to be the one to choose that moment for them. Law of Attraction will take care of that!

© 2018 G.A.I.L

“You’ll See it When You Believe It”


I enjoy playing with words – that’s why puns and double entendre have me fascinated.

Some years ago I came across a book written by Dr. Wayne Dyer called You’ll See It When You Believe It.

I’d heard the saying we’re more familiar with, ‘I’ll believe it when I see it’ but there was something about Dr. Dyer’s spin on it that had me intrigued. I felt I just had to lay my hands on this book.

I happened to be holidaying in India around that time, and one day I decided to pop into the local bookstore to see if they had a copy. I was eager and hopeful as I scanned the self- help section, but could not seem to find this title, even though there were other books there by Dr. Wayne Dyer.

Hopeful as I was, I asked at the counter to see if they had any in stock. The computer showed they did have two on the system, but neither the staff nor I could find them anywhere on the shelf. I of course was disappointed, but there really was nothing I could do about it.

I soon got distracted browsing around and found a couple of books that interested me. As I stood waiting in line at the counter to pay for them, my eyes fell upon a pile of unsorted books at the side and my heart skipped a beat. There, was the very book I’d been searching for.

You’ll see it when you believe it’ was sitting there, literally under my nose! I picked it up in utter delight, wanting to share this somewhat remarkable experience with the salesgirl.  When I told her that I had found the elusive book after all, she did not seem too impressed.

Looking back on this incident I wonder if I had perhaps been resonating at some level with the idea of ‘attraction’ rather than pure happenstance. That would explain why I was so thrilled that the book had somehow managed to find me, even after I had stopped looking.

And through the eyes of the salesgirl, what had just taken place was simply nothing out of the ordinary. Perhaps she did not want any more focus on the fact that things were not as organised as they should’ve been or perhaps she may never have opened herself to the possibility of anything beyond the observable.

In hindsight I can see that I had stumbled upon witnessing a perfect unfolding, without even realizing the actual dynamics. Now though, I understand more clearly what had happened…

I had gone to the store believing that I would find the book, because this particular bookstore usually carried current and popular titles. Even though I did not find it on the shelf, I was still hopeful and this simple hope had opened the door to possibility – that perhaps there was a copy in store somewhere.

And indeed there was one, which was not in the place it should’ve been. Fortunately my disappointment at not finding it was mitigated by my being distracted with browsing around and finding something else that interested me.

And because I was relatively free of resistance (meaning I was not mad at not being able to get the book I had so wanted) the Universe found a way to deliver to me exactly what I had been looking for!

‘Coincidence’ as I now understand is all about timing. I could’ve been waiting in the same line at the counter and not felt the impulse to look at the pile of books. But I did….

This book is still one of my prized possessions and everything I was reaching for at the time. It was the first time I had heard this very interesting perspective –  We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but rather spiritual beings having a human experience.   I thought this was a delightful idea to flirt with and possibly the first time I had really fully taken on board the ‘soul’ aspect of our human existence… that intangible aspect of ourselves that has the potential to harmonize with Universal Intelligence and bring to fruition anything that we can conceive of in our minds.

It was a few years before I became more solid in my understanding of this concept, but I feel so much more empowered, now that I do. You’ll See it When You Believe It was one of my first stepping stones into the world of personal transformation. The link between the principles of physics and collective consciousness made so much sense to me. These days it almost feels like I’m using a cheat code sometimes, in the way many experiences I now have seem to smooth out almost effortlessly.

Life certainly is a lot of fun!



                                                                                                                                             © 2018  G.A.I.L