Some things don’t change too much

All of us have some childhood memories we look back on with amusement—and maybe share with our kids.

Not too long ago an incident tumbled out of my memory which made me smile and when I shared it with my boys, they too were amused.

I told them of the time when I was around twelve and had to walk a fair distance to my piano class. It wasn’t much fun at all, to trudge up a hill in the hot afternoon sun  and the humidity in India certainly didn’t help. So to beat the drudgery, I’d often play little games with myself—like overtaking someone ahead of me, just to see if I could do it.

Anyway on this particular day, I hurried along as fast as my legs could carry me and just managed to overtake a man in front of me. My satisfaction at racing him was short lived as he managed to get ahead of me only a few minutes later. This silent race went on for a couple of minutes, both of us seemingly oblivious to the other.

Then to my utter surprise, he suddenly paused and graciously ushered me forward. I was taken aback ‘cos I’d assumed he hadn’t really noticed me and I felt a little sheepish to know that he had indeed been aware of what was going on.

This was thirty odd years ago but some things don’t change. A couple of weeks ago I was walking along and I wondered if I could actually outpace anyone. I have slowed a bit since my surgery but I’m happy enough at my current walking speed of 4.5 km/h.

There were two men ahead of me this time, one walking far more briskly than the other. I hurried along even as the brisk walker strode off leaving me with just one competitor. I found myself exhilarated with my effort, because I could see that I was gaining on my target and slowly closing the gap between us. As I drew closer I stepped on to the grass (rather than on the concrete sidewalk) to give him a wider berth and as I crossed him, he did something that left me quite stunned.

No kidding, but he did exactly what that gentleman had done so many years ago. He too paused and gestured kindly for me to go ahead! I could hardly believe what was just happening.

I’ve never really noticed anyone give more than a casual glance to people walking past, so I was extremely startled with his reaction because it was a perfect replication of that childhood memory of mine!

While it’s interesting enough that I haven’t changed all that much over decades (in my secret desire to overtake fellow walkers), I find it fascinating that the Universe decided to deliver pretty much the exact same response using a different player—and that too, in an entirely different continent!

I can only surmise that I must’ve had an active vibe in me that actually elicited that response from the man the second time around. I guess a lot of people might dismiss this as an interesting but random incident, but I do believe everything unfolds logically, in this attraction based Universe.

We tend to take ourselves (with our thoughts, beliefs, observations, perceptions—and therefore potential for attracting) everywhere we go and things often repeat themselves accordingly.

Different places, different faces—and (according to me)  pretty well demonstrated in this case;)

© 2018 G.A.I.L


The Magic of Focus

I learnt something pretty amazing about ‘Focus’ and how it fits in with Law of Attraction and I just have to share…

Focus is nothing more than attention to a subject.

Like a magnifying glass of sorts, focus draws whatever you’re thinking about, away from the rubble of myriad everyday thoughts and places it centre stage. Then Law of Attraction takes a hold of it and momentum begins.

One thought leads to another and another and another.

Haven’t we all had days when nothing seems to go right? And yet there are other days, when life seems so perfect that nothing can go wrong?

Apparently a lot depends on when you are vibrationally (the net balance of the thoughts you’re thinking) at any given moment in time. If you happen to encounter something not quite pleasing, and don’t do anything to shift your focus away from the troubling aspect to something even a little less displeasing, chances are that you will find yourself in a bad mood soon enough. Law of Attraction, like a powerful gust of wind tends to sweep up all active thoughts (like fallen leaves) into a larger pile that sooner or later becomes more tangible.

On the other hand, if you’re feeling upbeat everything just seems to fall into place smoothly and effortlessly.

That’s because Law of Attraction picks up where one currently is vibrationally, gathers momentum from those active thoughts and moves it slowly and inexorably into a manifestation of sorts — pleasing in some cases or not so pleasing in others.

The best part about understanding how this works is that one can always make a conscious attempt to shift focus on to something more satisfying. I guess there’s plenty of power in distraction, especially if it’s something fun that can break the momentum of a subject that’s rapidly turning sour.

Admittedly, it is easier to stay on a subject one feels ‘justified’ to stay on, (even though it feels rotten) rather than deliberately focus on something more cheerful that can actually rake in more pleasing outcomes. And in that very minor shift, lies the potential for some amazing stuff!

Staying in that happier feeling long enough brings something equally (if not more) desirable into view since Law of Attraction continues to do what it always does – it builds momentum around the subject of one’s attention and very soon one can create a better ‘point of attraction’ that law of attraction can respond to, thus creating a whole new reality that’s far more satisfying— and that truly is magic!

Dr. Seuss must’ve known the creative control we have in our lives, when he came up with one of his famous quirky quotes—“ You have brains in your head and feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.”

I’d like to add my ‘two bits’:  “You have thoughts in your head and focus as a tool, you can reach for anything you think is pretty cool.”

‘Focus’ might be worth a shot, huh?

© 2018 G.A.I.L

A Matter of Perspective

A matter of perspective

I’ve always been fascinated with how different people see things so differently.

I used to think there was one absolute ‘Right’ or one absolute ‘Wrong’ for everything. I probably had been conditioned into believing that there was some kind of straight and narrow path that I needed to tread, if I were to live a satisfactory life. And religion certainly had reinforced that need for compliance.

Something never quite added up for me, though. I often noticed that in any argument I ever witnessed (small or large), both parties usually seemed to have a valid point that I could understand clearly, and empathize with as well.

Well-meaning as I often was, I would eagerly try to explain to each one why the other may have chosen to act the way they did. It seemed crystal clear to me, but my explanations did nothing to convince anyone of anything.

And slowly something began to dawn on me that I later realized, was quite important. While I certainly understood ‘perspective’ I had not factored in something else. It was simply, the right to ‘perspective’ that each of us has.

People are generally pretty much convinced they are right – and of course they always are, from their own perspective. I could soothe, pacify or try to explain as much as I could, but my explanations would always be doomed to fall on deaf ears. That’s when I realized it would probably be better for me to stop advising anyone of anything and allow them to tune in to their own perspective —or not!

Don’t we all have a choice in every moment? We can be content in our perspective—or we can whip up a flurry of angst, trying to convince everyone else of our point of view.

Of course there will be plenty who claim the other does not have an open mind. But aren’t those the same people desperately breaking all boundaries just to make everyone agree with their perspective? And often, they’re the most unhappy ones.

As for me, I have come into my own understanding that suits me just fine. I choose to ‘be happy’, rather than ‘be right’—which often means taking into consideration what the other is saying, and then working that into my own comfort zone.

And the virtuous ones will condemn me. And of course they’ll be ‘right’ in their perspective. But the question is: Will they be happy?

I suspect not, because condemnation and true happiness can never truly co-exist.


© 2018 G.A.I.L

A Matter of Taste

Like most women, I love a good bargain.

I guess this tendency can be a little irksome to men who don’t especially enjoy the thrill of foraging so to speak, and getting a ‘scoop’. When we enter a store my husband is more likely to make a beeline towards his favourite tried and tested brands, while I find myself drawn irresistibly to the bargain section.

Anyway the other day we happened to be talking about our individual styles of doing things. My husband threw in his perspective and insisted that he had much better taste than me. I pondered over his comment while he waited somewhat eagerly for my response. I suspect he was certain I would deny this, but much to his surprise I didn’t.

‘Of course you’ve got much better taste than me,’ I said with a merry chuckle, ‘Look who you’ve married!’

I waited impishly for my implication to register and when it did, I was rewarded with a sheepish grin. Yeah, he couldn’t really argue with that, could he?

I doubt he’ll ever accuse me again of poor taste!


© 2018 G.A.I.L

Turning Thoughts to Things

Things can always germinate from a ‘thought’ into a ‘thing’ if there is enough momentum. And of course momentum is simply Law of Attraction in action.

In my case I love creative stuff, so it’s no wonder that anything remotely smacking of creativity calls out to me in a way I cannot resist.

I see my stubbornness to give up on a desire as a wonderful thing that propels me forward, despite any limitation—for example a paralyzed arm, in my case.

I guess many people find it disconcerting to see me stubbornly intent on reaching for my own personal satisfaction, regardless of any setback. I have to confess that I’m not using ‘Will power’ to prove that I can accomplish something —but rather ‘Wish power’ for the simple reason that  I’m pretty enamoured with whatever it is I’ve conjured up in my imagination and feel the need to see it in its created form.

I think my ‘wish’ or desire to try out some things is so cheerful and devoid of resistance, that I’m open to receiving inspiration to ideas that will help my project along. I’m always buoyed by each thought and this spurs me on to receiving more and more thoughts of similar nature. I always seem to find a creative way of surmounting any hurdle I come across. Well, that’s my understanding of how Law of Attraction works.

For example, some time ago our community club suggested having a piñata for the kids at a Weekend getaway. Given my love for all things creative, I happily volunteered to make one. I thought it would be fun to attempt creating a piñata single-handedly, pun intended. (I’ve made piñatas before – just not with one hand.) For me the challenge was thrilling and exciting!

I guess any task can be broken down into do-able components and working with paper mache has to be the best example;)

I set about making my piñata with shredded strips of newspaper, dipped in a paste of flour and water, layering them patiently—strip by strip, over an extra-large inflated balloon. It was Easter season and I was attempting to make an Easter bunny.

It took me a few days while I waited for the layers to dry, but it was worth the effort as I watched my little creation come to life.

The newspaper encased balloon may not have looked too appealing on its own, but it occurred to me that I could use bits of toilet tissue to dress it up. And along with some  bits of yellow crepe paper that I cut up, my little bunny began to develop cheeks and a little  bit of personality. I drew his eyes and teeth on plain white paper, cut them out and stuck them on. I agree it’s not the easiest thing to cut out little shapes with one hand even with a left-handed scissor… but then I soon discovered that a small bit of Blu Tack can help stabilise the paper on a cutting board, so it becomes easier to  cut around.

Then I shaped out his ears from cardboard, decorated them with crepe paper and pinned them on. A few tassels on the bottom completed the picture I had visualized in my head and I was pretty pleased with my effort. The picture you see above is my own little creation, hanging cheekily from our apricot tree in the backyard.

We filled up our bunny with lots of goodies and waited for the kids to fall upon it. They certainly did— with great glee!

I soon discovered that I had gone a bit overboard with the layering and the bunny turned out to be a tough nut to crack. He literally had to be clobbered to release his goodies but everyone had a good laugh, including me.

And come to think of it, if I can do this with one hand …. surely any ‘bunny’ can!


© 2018 G.A.I.L

My biggest regret


It’s easy to find me at any party. I’m one of the few people who aren’t on the floor, dancing.  And that’s not because I don’t want to. I’d love to gyrate to my favourite numbers or waltz my way through nostalgic melodies — to let the passion I feel for music soak into my veins and guide my feet gracefully across the floor.

Yet none of this yearning translates into any action. My feet remain wooden and I politely refuse any offers to dance. Sometimes I will joke about my two ‘left feet’.  At other times I will feign a sore ankle.  I am fully aware though, that I’m not being true to myself.  A shadow of regret steals over me and I find myself drawn into considering ‘what-might-have-been’ had I chosen to follow my heart and not my mind.

Somewhere along the way you see, I short changed myself into believing that I could not dance.  I may have parlayed an idle teasing comment into something larger and allowed a playful quip of being heavy-footed to loom larger than it should have. In a sense I was allowing Law of Attraction to gather momentum towards a thought that was not serving me too well.

Without realizing it, I had allowed my imagination to conjure up a picture of myself that answered someone else’s perceptions and then managed to comply with an action that matched that blueprint! My husband, who came along when my momentum was already pretty strong, was powerless to do much to convince me otherwise. He realized that persuading me against my will would only compound my resistance.

Fortunately for me, life has taught me that nothing really needs to be cut in stone. While it may not be the easiest thing for me to do, I can certainly turn around the negative spiral I had set into motion years ago and give myself a break.

Rather than focus on an unsavory teasing comment made in the past, I can deliberately tune my attention to kind people like my husband who accept me unconditionally and who have waited patiently for me to be ready. And I’m sure my shift in perspective will open the door to letting go of my limiting beliefs—and that chunk of unnecessary baggage I carried from the past. So when my husband next asks me to dance, my step will be a trifle lighter as I follow him onto the dance floor. With a more carefree spirit I shall wave goodbye to the specters of the past and take a step forward —into the momentum of my own desires.

Because … when the final curtain is drawn there will be no room for regrets.


© 2018 G.A.I.L

Beyond the World Wide Web

I’m one of those people who’s not particularly tech savvy. A friend playfully dubbed me a ‘Luddite’ and the first time I heard the word, I had to look it up.

Apparently ‘a Luddite’ is someone who is terribly resistant to technology. (The origin of the word can be traced down to English workers who destroyed machinery back in the early nineteenth century when they believed their jobs in cotton and woolen mills were being threatened.)

Fortunately for me, the internet (unlike technology for me in general) is far more co-operative thanks to Google and all the other search engines that work hard to make my life less complicated. All I have to ask, and hey presto an answer shows up.

In my humble opinion, this is the best practical example of Law of Attraction in action. You type in a few key words and anything remotely connected or tagged, pops up on your screen from the ethers of Cyberspace.

I believe our ‘thoughts’ are pretty much the KEY WORDS, since that is really what is active in our vibration. ‘Law of Attraction’ creates the momentum and practically becomes the SEARCH ENGINE that gathers together things that are ‘TAGGED’ so to speak by the same vibrational frequency. The ‘Universe’ as I understand it is that vibrational CYBERSPACE which contains every bit of information that anyone would ever need.

How quickly a RESULT (or rather a manifestation) occurs, is dependent on how well the OPERATING SYSTEM so to speak, is functioning.

Just as having too many tabs on your desktop slows down the process, having too many doubts does the same.

Have you ever noticed how easily ‘happy’ babies seem to get what they want? It’s hard to resist the charm in those hopeful trusting eyes. And the reason this is charming is because their desire is so pure and not contradicted by any doubt.

I find this subject fascinating, because it seems to explain ‘coincidences’ as something more than random happenstance. There is a mechanism behind the way things unfold and no one ever need be a victim of circumstance. We have the option of aligning with what we really want or doing the opposite simply because we don’t know better.

I guess I’ll have to wait for real life examples of my own to show up—and shore up what I’m getting to know at a deeper level.

And … busy blogger that I am, I’ll be happy to share with you whatever tidbits of insight I may get.


© 2018 G.A.I.L