I spent a major portion of my life looking for other people’s approval, even though what I was doing felt very satisfying.
I knew I was being sincere and authentic, yet I somehow needed assurance that everyone really saw me that way. I think we all seek approval to some degree or another. Facebook figured this out a long time ago, which is why it introduced the ‘Like’ button!
And then one fine day, it struck me that no one really could ever see me the way I see myself, so it was always going to be a futile exercise waiting for that seemingly easy, yet elusive moment to ever happen. At that moment I made a conscious decision to cut loose from this bondage and float free.
I guess there were a few realisations that had to lock into place in my understanding, which then formed a solid enough platform of ‘knowing ‘for me.
I had just come upon the suggestion that we in our physical experience are like radios, transmitting and receiving, whether we are consciously aware of it or not. This was a fascinating idea for me, because I had never heard anything like this before. And like a radio receiver, we are capable of receiving different frequencies. This would mean that we have the potential to tune our personal frequency to achieve a different point of attraction.
I was fascinated by the idea of being able to actually create a reality, rather than get something by default!
Well, it turns out that our conscious thinking mind determines the frequency we are set at, at any given moment in time, by the thoughts we think. That made a lot of sense to me, because I then began to notice that things seemed to happen in keeping with the mood or frequency that I happened to be on.
On days that I was grumpy, I noticed I was meeting up with a lot of grumpy people and on the days I was feeling upbeat, a lot of interesting experiences came my way, which pretty much took my breath away.
This observation helped me go one step further. I realised that making a conscious effort at tuning my own frequency could really influence what would be drawn into my experience. Could it really be that simple?
While the theory of it is sound, it is a little more difficult (but certainly not impossible!) to achieve that practical terms. And that is because of the very nature of Law of Attraction – That which is like unto itself is drawn.
Each progressive thought has to be in vibrational range of the preceding one. Therefore, one still has to go through the metaphoric ‘turning of the dial’ to get to a higher frequency. You can’t just say, ‘I’m happy’ and expect things to shift instantly—the vibrational frequency has to gather enough momentum to be strong enough, to begin the process of attraction.
While a positive outlook is undeniably a good frequency to reach for, I’ve found that most people talk about ‘positive thinking’ without really understanding the actual dynamics. It’s more than just positive sounding words; it’s the actual feeling behind it.
For example saying the words ‘I am happy’ when one is most certainly not happy, serves no purpose, because the frequency really has not changed. And the same principle applies to any subject – the frequency of where you currently are and where you want to be are very different. And bridging that gap through a conscious exercise of thoughts is all the tuning that is needed.
Everyone’s journey is different and therefore there is not ‘one size that fits all’.
In my case, I seem to have an in-built positive attitude that serves me extremely well. My stumbling block was allowing other people’s expectations to get in the way of my own. That almost always would cause me angst and would get me to lower my frequency and leave me rather confused. Fortunately now that I understand the process, I’m far more aligned with what I want rather than what other people want of me!
I’ll admit it – it’s not all that easy to ignore what people think, do or say, especially if you’re a keen observer like I am. But there are simple tools I’ve discovered that make the tuning much easier. I found these simple thoughts that were general enough and reasonable enough to play with when my dial gets stuck:
- “Everyone thinks differently”
- “I get to choose my thoughts and they get to choose theirs”
- “No one needs to be right, but we all need to figure out our way”
- “My way doesn’t need to be their way”
And within no time at all I can tune myself to who I really am —letting everyone else be ‘who they be’, while I ‘be who I be’.
And the world is a better place … or at least my world is a better place!
© 2018 G.A.I.L